Years ago I read a NYT op-ed called “The Busy Trap” by Tim Kreider, that completely changed my view on life. At the time I was working at a job that I not only did not like, but one that also took up all my time and brought on a lot of stress and anxiety. That combination left me drained every single night, with zero energy for self care, hobbies, interests or relationships. I truly believed that this was normal and that this was just what it meant to be an adult. This article helped shatter that illusion.

Busy is a decision.

“Business serves as a kind of existential reassurance, a hedge against emptiness; obviously your life cannot possibly be silly or trivial or meaningless if you are so busy, completely booked, in demand every hour of the day.”

I was choosing to put myself in a situation that was making me more and more unhappy. Parts of myself that I once loved were slowly dying from a lack of attention and I was ok with that. I wasn’t too busy, I just did not prioritize them. I was making decisions based on what others valued and not based on what I valued.

Years later, I still do not have it all figured it out. This is still the very beginning of my journey and I am totally alright with that. But like the author of the op-ed there is one thing that I have understood.

“… I did make a conscious decision, a long time ago, to choose time over money, since I’ve always understood that the best investment of my limited time on earth was to spend it with people I love. “

Give the piece a read… If you’re not too busy.